July 28, 2003
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My feelings were correct. Christina didn’t want to move. We’ve known each other much too long to hide anything like that. It became quite ugly at one point — both of us yelling at each other. On Friday we were both just exhausted with the whole situation. Neither of us could decide what we wanted to do and nothing we were saying to each other, friends, and family was helping. We decided to forget about the whole thing and go over to a friends house. This friend — we’ll call him “T” for simplicity sake — had a friend over whom we’ll call Joe. We’d never met Joe. “Unbiased Arbitrator” we both thought. He had just moved here from MN and didn’t have a job. Some may say that he was the wrong person to ask — we thought he was perfect. “Do what you want to do,” was his simple advice. Hmmm... still had a dilemma on our hands.
Over the course of the evening we were reminded of just what it will be like here, in the beautiful Flathead Valley — which will turn to an absolute dark-frozen-hell-on-earth in several months. We were reminded just how hard it is to find a job here. (Joe happens to be a communications guy also and I could feel the frustration mounting in me just listening to him talk about the difference between what he wanted to do and what was practical to do.)
Christina must have felt some of this too because as soon as we dropped them off and pointed the car towards home she said, “I think we should move.”
“I agree 100%.”
“So we’re decided then?”
“Yes.”
When we got home we gave each other a big hug and we both felt the weight lifted off our shoulders. It’s good to be on the same page, but it can’t be forced. It’s got to be right, and finally it is.
posted @ 5:14 PM
I’m so glad to hear that you got the job at Vajrapani (especially wonderful after thinking it was lost!), and that you and Christina have arrived at a mutually satisfactory decision. I truly wish you the best of luck! I know this will be a wonderfully fortunate thing for both of you.
posted by Kate on July 28, 2003 06:02 PMThanks, Kate! They told us that, “working for a Dharma center is a great way to purify karma.” I love Buddhists for that because really what they were saying was, “watch out — the shit is gonna hit the fan when you get here. Murphy’s law in full effect.” I think we got a little taste of that the other day. I too am very happy that we came to a decision we can both be happy with.
posted by tom on July 30, 2003 07:28 AM
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